Moving is a big deal for parents. But it’s a huge deal for children. It’s turning their whole world upside down and sometimes that can leave for a very unpleasant experience from their perspective. If you get it right, however, it can be a change for the better and even an adventure. To make that the case, you have to get the move right and help them see it from a better point-of-view.
You’ve decided on a home. You’ve ensured it’s safe, close to school and whatever else you need. Now you need to focus on making sure the family is ready for the move. It matters that they’re ready emotionally, too. You want your children to anticipate their new home, to be excited. One of the best ways to do that is to explore all the parts of the area that are most exhilarating. If it’s near any parks, spend a day with them there. If there’s a swimming pool, a bowling alley, or a cinema nearby, go there in advance. Show them the possibilities of the fun they can have when they’re living there.
Make it quick and painless
Moving day itself can be one of those chapters of the change that can really taint the whole experience. If stress and bickering become the flavor of the day, it should be no wonder that your kids are going to have a glum outlook even after the home is set up. The point is that you want to handle as much of the move in advance before it happens. Get in touch with local movers well before the big day and make sure they’re free. Find out the specifics of whether they’re going to just move your belongings or if they will help you take them inside. Organize all your possessions so that things are ready to move and go exactly where they need to by labeling them. Be open to the possibility that you might not get everything set up on the first day, so have an overnight bag so you and your kids can “camp” in the home on their first night there.
Breaking the silence
The hardest part of the move on a child is undoubtedly the social upheaval that comes with it. Leaving their friends behind is difficult and making friends as a new kid can be even more difficult. Your child might be at a tender age where navigating new social relationships is hard, especially with pre-established groups. Help them find their new friends by getting them involved with others in the community. For instance, if there are any volunteering efforts local families are involved in, joining can be good for both of you. You should also look at community classes and activities with other children, whether it’s sports, a book club or perhaps something else entirely.
At the school gates
Similarly, it is not rare for children in new environments to have trouble at the school. The second first day at school can be harder than the first. A parent’s’ involvement in their education and the school itself is vital. Talk to teachers about your child’s progress and become a known figure. You can do this by finding a place on the PTA or just by getting involved in school fundraisers and meetings. You can get the inside look that can help you find the right way of better encouraging your child.
A move without making sure that your child is prepared and integrating can become a life-changing experience for the worse for them. Don’t forget them and how they’re going to handle the move. Your efforts alone can change their whole outlook on it.